Just treat me as a normal person, please!

Every now and then a private message pops into my inbox on different BDSM sites, sounding very much like this:

"Hello Mistress. May I have permission to speak to you, Mistress? *kneels respectfully*"

There is something very wrong about this.

First, I am not Mistress of any of these men. If I want someone to call me Mistress it's because they belong to me and I've actively requested that they call me Mistress when sending a PM or memo. If a man doesn't belong to me he has no business of calling me Mistress, and if he does belong to me I'll let him know how to address me.

Secondly, I see no reason why a man should ask me for permission to speak to me in that way. I am not his Mistress, I am just a stranger and want to be treated as such. I don't mind common courtesy, but this is just ridiculous.

I just want to be treated as an ordinary person, a stranger. Courtious, but not too much. I do not believe in too large 'gaps' between Domme and sub. First we are entirely ordinary persons and get to know each other as such, in the vanilla way of things. If we like each other we start 'dating' like in vanilla. Then, if all goes well we move on to establish some kind of relationship, which might at this point involve BDSM.

Mind you, this is just how I prefer things to be. Other Dommes will have other preferences. In general, though, my impression is that Domme's want to be treated as normal persons to start with. If they want a special way of communication from the start, they'll usually tell you in their profiles (that is my impression).

The great move

It is now the end of October already, and I've lived in Swansea, Wales for over a month! Moving countries and starting a really hard Masters degree study is the reason I haven't posted here in forever. I'll try to update my blog more often, but I usually just post when I've got something on my mind that I need to get out!

I'm happy about my new town and country so far. Haven't gone to any munches yet, as I'm a really busy bee, but hopefully I'll get myself to one soon enough. And maybe even meet a nice guy and get something going in that area of life. It's been an eternity since the last time I dated, 1.5 years, since I really just needed a break from men, and then I figured I'd leave the country and didn't want to start anything new back in Norway.

I'll come back with more opinionated posts at a later date.